Confidence + Kindness

Confidence Plus Kindness

a powerfully good duo

The Story

In aiming to raise four good humans, while aiming to be a good human myself, so often two key attributes in life rise to the top of importance: Confidence + Kindness.

And with these two together, the rest just seems to work itself out. Said another way, Love Yourself + Love Others. With an unbalanced focus on only one and not the other, things never go quite as well.

Confidence is having a feeling of little doubt about yourself and your abilities. It is the voice in your head full of trust and belief and understanding of you. It is simply demonstrating acceptance and support of yourself, and in what makes you, you.

Kindness is a quality of being friendly, generous and considerate. It is showing empathy and understanding. It is simply demonstrating acceptance and support of others and in what makes them, them.

Confidence + Kindness is a powerfully good duo. They support and balance one another.

The more secure we are in ourselves, the more generous we can be toward others. Confidence frees us from comparison. Kindness frees us from judgment. Together, they free us to love people well.

So let's do this every day.

Let's create a Confidence + Kindness movement that never stops.

The Original

My grandmother, Bobby Dean Hodges, depicted in this 1997 photo with me, embodied the powerfully good duo of confidence plus kindness every day of her life. Everyone felt seen when they were with her. She was the first to congratulate someone else's success. She stood up for people while never putting others down. She walked into every room completely comfortable in who she was. Her influence lives on today.

Bobby Dean Hodges and Amy Spears in a 1997 photo
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball
Pretty is as pretty does.
— Bobby Dean Hodges
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
— Mother Theresa

Coaching Series

Confidence + Kindness is a personal 1:1 coaching series on blending courage with compassion in everyday life. A four-part model serves as the foundation, helping you understand, cultivate, and practice confidence and kindness.

The four-part journey

  1. Know Yourself: The Foundation

    Identify your personal strengths, values, and barriers to confidence.

  2. Accept Yourself: The Inner Dialogue

    Cultivate self-kindness and learn to rewrite negative self-talk.

  3. Accept Others: The Ripple Effect

    Bring greater kindness into your relationships and communities.

  4. Live the Duo: Confidently Kind

    Reflect on your growth, integrate new practices, and celebrate your progress.

Amy Spears with her husband
Amy Spears's four children together at home

Meet Your Coach: Amy Spears

Confidence + Kindness wasn't born from a single moment. It has taken shape through 30 years of marriage, raising four children, and a 30-year career serving in senior leadership roles—all ongoing chapters that continue to challenge, teach, and shape me. Through it all, I keep returning to one truth: the more genuinely we accept ourselves, the more genuinely we can accept others.

I'll be the first to tell you I don't have life completely figured out—and I never expect to. That's exactly the point. It is in the messy, imperfect middle of life that I've found my deepest lessons about confidence and kindness.

My journey hasn't been perfect, and I wouldn't have it any other way. It has shaped who I am and given me lessons I'm passionate about sharing. My hope is simple: to help people genuinely love themselves and genuinely love others. I believe Confidence + Kindness is a powerfully good duo. By living both, we can make the world a kinder, more compassionate, and more connected place.

Schedule your 2026 series

Four private, 60-minute sessions

$399 total investment

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Love Yourself + Love Others